Caring for a loved one with a serious illness can be hard. We're here for you.
We'll text you personalized tips and strategies all year long, crafted by experts. Get support for anticipatory grief, caregiver stress, patient care and navigating end-of-life.
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How it works
We text ongoing, expert support to people caring for a loved one who is dying.
1. Sign up for texts
It only takes 5 minutes to complete our sign up form. The more you're comfortable sharing, the better we'll be able to customize your texts based on age, relationship, diagnosis, prognosis, and dates that are important to you (like a birthday or a holiday).
When you become aware that your loved one is transitioning and likely has just a few weeks or days to live, send a text and let us know. We'll send increased support specific to caring for them during the very end of their life. You can see examples of these messages by scrolling further down this page.
2. Add supporters
This step is optional, but research shows that receiving support from others helps caregivers feel less isolated and decreases burnout.
Using your customized email template or QR code, easily send invites to the people you'd like to support you. Once they accept, we'll text them gentle suggestions and tips about how to be there for you.
You focus on taking care of yourself; we'll take care of educating your friends and family.
3. Start getting texts
Once you're signed up, you'll receive your first text within minutes. Get grounding, comforting, informative help written by experts.
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Explore examples of real messages we've sent
- Hi, Sidney. Consider what you might subtract from or add to your grandfather's space in order to make him more comfortable. For instance, you might subtract a loud TV or harsh overhead lighting. You might add soft music, fresh flowers, cozy blankets, battery-operated candles, or low lights. Creating an atmosphere of peace and calm can help him feel relaxed as you care for him.
- Hi, Elle. Caring for a child with cancer often means living on a medical rollercoaster. One day, you're celebrating recovery milestones; the next, you're facing another hospital admission. It's normal to feel both immense pride in Graham's resilience and deep exhaustion from the constant vigilance. Remember that your strength as a caregiver matters - taking small moments for yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for this journey you're on together.
- Hi, Brenda. Here's something you can try the next time Tom exhibits challenging behaviors. Rather than thinking "Tom is frustrating me," try separating him from the disease and instead try thinking "Dementia is creating challenges for Tom and everyone who loves him." This small shift can help preserve your connection to Tom, even when his symptoms are at their worst.
- Hi, Juan. During your aunt's medical appointments, try using the "teach-back" method to ensure you've understood everything. After the provider explains something, simply say "May I repeat back what I heard to make sure I understood correctly?" This helps to capture important details and avoid any confusion.
- Hi, Kai. As you care for your son, it can be normal to worry about whether or not you're going to say the wrong thing. Rather than trying to fix everything, consider asking your son, "What would feel supportive right now?" Sometimes he may want a distraction, other times just quiet company. Following his lead may reduce pressure on both of you.
- Hi, Ari. It can be helpful to announce what you are about to do before you touch a part of your dad's body. Even if he cannot speak, simply let him know you're in the room and talk through what you are doing as you are taking care of him. For example, "I'm going to lift your arm and rearrange your pillows so that you'll be more comfortable."
- Hi, Shelia. When we are stressed, tired, and overwhelmed, we tend to feel it in our bodies. Our bodies do a great job communicating with us when they need rest, movement, food, comfort, or love. Notice your body right now. What is your body trying to ask you for? Take a few minutes to acknowledge and respond to your body's request for support.