How it works:
Get ongoing, expert grief support straight to your phone.
1. Sign up for texts
It only takes 5 minutes to complete our sign up form. The more you're comfortable sharing, the better we'll be able to customize your text messages based on age, relationship, cause of death, and dates that are important to you (like a death anniversary or a holiday).
2. Add supporters
This step is optional, but research shows that receiving support from others helps grievers feel less alone after a death.
Using your customized email template or QR code, easily send invites to the people you'd like to support you. Once they accept, we'll text them gentle suggestions and tips about how to be there for you.
You focus on taking care of yourself; we'll take care of educating your friends and family.
3. Start getting texts
Once you're signed up, there's nothing else you need to do. You'll receive your first text within minutes. Sit back and let helpful, expert grief wisdom come to you.Start getting texts
Help Texts messages are...
- Easy to get
Sign up once and get support for as long as you need it
- Written by grief experts, for grievers
Texts are crafted by grief experts who have also experienced significant loss
One year of support costs less than a single therapy session
- Practical and comforting
From therapeutic tools to mindfulness exercises, texts offer gentle support
Find new ways to connect to your person, your Supporters, and yourself
- Private and discreet
Read Help Texts when you're ready and process grief on your schedule
Real Help Texts messages:
Explore examples of real messages we've sent
- Hi, Maria. There may come a point in your grieving process where you feel relief over your mom's death, and you might feel strange or shameful about that. Rest assured: Experiencing relief is normal. Knowing that your mom no longer has to live with cancer is a comforting, if complicated, thought.
- Hi, Bosa. Grief after any loss is hard, but grief after a murder is a horror and an injustice that very few have to bear. You're probably angry and overwhelmed by how unfair it is, that someone took Zaye out of this world. And you're right, it is unfair. Remember that it's completely understandable and normal to feel this way. Anyone in your situation would feel the same way.
- Hi, Chelsea. Sharing the story of you mom's early symptoms, how COVID-19 progressed, and the treatment she received before she died, may help you to process her death. Consider talking about the details with a therapist or close friend, or maybe even writing about them in a journal. Hopefully you can find a few people who will be empathetic listeners as you share the story, knowing that in sharing your story, you are helping yourself heal.
- Hi, Lori Ann. When a person dies by suicide, many survivors report feeling labeled by their loss. They find it hard to attend events they used to enjoy because others only see the suicide and not the person grieving. This may be true for you too. If there are events you feel uneasy about attending, consider asking a friend to go with you. It will be easier to walk through the door with someone who understands what you're going through.
- Hi, Marcus. Particularly after a sudden or accidental death, it is completely normal to be in a state of shock and to feel as though you're only "going through the motions." If there are people you think would be willing to help you with day-to-day tasks, please ask. It is hard to do even the simplest things when something like this happens.
- Hi, Naomi. Many parents find it comforting to have physical things with them that help to keep their child’s memory alive. Perhaps you have an ultrasound photo you'd like to frame or you could have a piece of jewelry engraved with Erica's initials. These types of remembrances can be healing.
- Hi, Isabella. Caring for someone who had dementia can be a lonely experience. Self-isolating could have been a coping strategy, especially if your grandfather's behavior started to decline or become unpredictable. Consider finding small, manageable ways to re-enter social settings, like going to the movies, attending an exercise class, or meeting a friend for coffee.
- Hi, Deepti. Questions about the circumstances of your nephew's death can feel invasive. The next time someone asks you for information, you can let them know you're not ready to share those details right now but you are open to telling them how you're doing. Shifting the focus from what happened to your well-being could help you both connect.