Grief is hard.
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How it works:

Get ongoing, expert grief support straight to your phone.

1. Sign up for texts

It only takes 5 minutes to complete our sign up form. The more you're comfortable sharing, the better we'll be able to customize your text messages based on age, relationship, cause of death, and dates that are important to you (like a death anniversary or a holiday).

My name is Tracee. My mom, Maria, died from cancer on January 19, 2020. I would like extra support on Mother's Day and my birthday.

2. Add supporters

This step is optional, but research shows that receiving support from others helps grievers feel less alone after a death.

Using your customized email template or QR code, easily send invites to the people you'd like to support you. Once they accept, we'll text them gentle suggestions and tips about how to be there for you.

You focus on taking care of yourself; we'll take care of educating your friends and family.

3. Start getting texts

Once you're signed up, there's nothing else you need to do. You'll receive your first text within minutes. Sit back and let helpful, expert grief wisdom come to you.

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Hi, Tracee. The next time someone asks you how they can help out, why not ask them to tell you about a time that your mom really made them laugh? That may not be the kind of help they were thinking of, but it will be more fun to give (and to receive).

Testimonials:

Grieving people are getting easy, ongoing support from Help Texts

  • My clients talk to me all the time, about the lack of help and understanding they get from friends and family. If the people closest to them felt more comfortable and confident providing support, I think it would go a long way to helping my clients manage the depression and isolation that too often accompany grief.

    Lisa Bancroft, Therapist. MSW, LICSW.

    Lisa Bancroft, Therapist. MSW, LICSW.
  • The text messages I receive make me feel as if someone I trust—someone who has gone through this themselves—is speaking directly to me. It’s not generic. The messages are personal and thoughtful; they help me to process my grief and keep my Dad in my heart.

    Candice Smith, Help Texts subscriber

    Candice Smith, Help Texts subscriber
  • I found Help Texts on Instagram after my sister died. I've renewed my subscription twice since then, and find the personalized texts incredibly helpful. I really like that text messages come directly to me, and give me a reason to pause and think about Sarah and how I'm feeling. I also included Sarah's best friend in my subscription. She finds the subscription just as helpful as I do and always asks to be included each time I renew.

    Ann Kaufman, Help Texts subscriber

    Ann Kaufman, Help Texts subscriber
  • When you are doing okay, you forget that your grief needs attention. These texts helped remind me to make time for my grief and nephew.

    Susan, Bereavement Coordinator, Hospice of the Western Reserve

    Susan, Bereavement Coordinator, Hospice of the Western Reserve
  • Help Texts not only provides me—the griever—with support, but it also sends those closest to me reminders and suggestions on how to show up during my grieving process. Without anyone feeling bombarded with messages, we are all given gentle nudges and caring lifts. Help Texts is especially great for those who might not be sure what to say or do and for grievers who might be wondering if what they're feeling is 'normal.'

    Amy Bishop, end-of-life doula

    Amy Bishop, end-of-life doula
  • I was gifted Help Texts after my father died, and I've gifted it to many others now, especially men. There's a stigma around male grief. With Help Texts, you can ponder the messages on your own time without the pressure of grieving in front of others. It feels like a private, personal consult for your grief.

    Mark Busse, Help Texts subscriber

    Mark Busse, Help Texts subscriber

    Help Texts messages are...

    • Easy to get
      Sign up once and get support for as long as you need it
    • Written by grief experts, for grievers
      Texts are crafted by grief experts who have also experienced significant loss
    • Affordable
      One year of support costs less than a single therapy session
    • Practical and comforting
      From therapeutic tools to mindfulness exercises, texts offer gentle support
    • Relationship-building
      Find new ways to connect to your person, your Supporters, and yourself
    • Private and discreet
      Read Help Texts when you're ready and process grief on your schedule

    Real Help Texts messages:

    Explore examples of real messages we've sent

    • Hi, Maria. There may come a point in your grieving process where you feel relief over your mom's death, and you might feel strange or shameful about that. Rest assured: Experiencing relief is normal. Knowing that your mom no longer has to live with cancer is a comforting, if complicated, thought.
    • Hi, Bosa. Grief after any loss is hard, but grief after a murder is a horror and an injustice that very few have to bear. You're probably angry and overwhelmed by how unfair it is, that someone took Zaye out of this world. And you're right, it is unfair. Remember that it's completely understandable and normal to feel this way. Anyone in your situation would feel the same way.
    • Hi, Chelsea. Sharing the story of you mom's early symptoms, how COVID-19 progressed, and the treatment she received before she died, may help you to process her death. Consider talking about the details with a therapist or close friend, or maybe even writing about them in a journal. Hopefully you can find a few people who will be empathetic listeners as you share the story, knowing that in sharing your story, you are helping yourself heal.
    • Hi, Lori Ann. When a person dies by suicide, many survivors report feeling labeled by their loss. They find it hard to attend events they used to enjoy because others only see the suicide and not the person grieving. This may be true for you too. If there are events you feel uneasy about attending, consider asking a friend to go with you. It will be easier to walk through the door with someone who understands what you're going through.
    • Hi, Marcus. Particularly after a sudden or accidental death, it is completely normal to be in a state of shock and to feel as though you're only "going through the motions." If there are people you think would be willing to help you with day-to-day tasks, please ask. It is hard to do even the simplest things when something like this happens.
    • Hi, Naomi. Many parents find it comforting to have physical things with them that help to keep their child’s memory alive. Perhaps you have an ultrasound photo you'd like to frame or you could have a piece of jewelry engraved with Erica's initials. These types of remembrances can be healing.
    • Hi, Isabella. Caring for someone who had dementia can be a lonely experience. Self-isolating could have been a coping strategy, especially if your grandfather's behavior started to decline or become unpredictable. Consider finding small, manageable ways to re-enter social settings, like going to the movies, attending an exercise class, or meeting a friend for coffee.
    • Hi, Deepti. Questions about the circumstances of your nephew's death can feel invasive. The next time someone asks you for information, you can let them know you're not ready to share those details right now but you are open to telling them how you're doing. Shifting the focus from what happened to your well-being could help you both connect.

    Grief is hard

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